The death of someone who is special and close to us is very painful. It feels like a part of you has also died with them, and nothing and no one can ever replace the empty space he left in your heart. However, life goes on. The world will not stop just because you are grieving, nor will you have to stop living just because you lost someone you love dearly. Sooner or later, you will have to pick up the pieces and try to move on with your life. Moving on and coping with the grief and loss may be very difficult, but it is a process we need to go through to completely heal. Below are some tips for coping with the death and loss of a loved one.
Talk About It
Some people feel that it will be easier to cope with the pain if you ignore your feelings. However, ignoring the pain only does the opposite since it keeps your emotions all bottled up, making it much harder for you to cope with the pain and loss. You need to release some of your pent-up emotions to deal with grief. If you need to talk, then talk about your loved one. If you need to cry or reminisce about him, then cry and remember him with people who also loved him.
Let Go of His Things
Letting go of his things is difficult, but then again, it is a part of the process of healing. Put all his things in boxes, and if you feel that you are now ready to let them go, then donate them to charitable institutions, as suggested by http://sysstorage.com/ in Utah. If you are not ready yet to let them go, then keep them in your basement or attic. You can even rent a storage unit where you can keep them in. You can always donate them anytime you feel like you are finally ready to let his material possessions go.
Draw Comfort from People
People will tell you to “keep your chin up” or “smile and be brave” or “you can do it.” While it is okay to follow their advice and be strong in the face of your grief and loss, you have to know that it is okay to show your weakness once in a while. Yes, your family will appreciate the fact that you appear strong and brave, but they will appreciate it more if they know you are grieving normally. Let go of your feelings; cry if you need to cry; rage if you need to vent out your anger; throw things if the pain is too much; break down and be lonely. Need someone else to comfort you, and draw comfort from the people you love and who loves you. You are not alone in grieving, and there will always be someone who is willing to lend a helping hand when the grief and pain of loss become too painful for you to bear on your own. Together, you can comfort each other.
Grieving for the loss of a loved one is difficult, but you can overcome it in time and through the help of your loved ones.
Jennifer Dalton is a freelance article writer for family and parenting blogs. She usually writes about tips and advice for keeping family ties strong.